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Die vrou se geldeenheid [boodskap #15964]

Tue, 30 June 1998 00:00

M.Kruger
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Die vrou se geldeenheid.

Ek weet ek skop weer 'n kan wurms hier oop, maar het gedink julle kan dalk
'n paar nuwe denkrigtings ontwikkel rondom die volgende onderwerp.

Kyk gisteraand "Ally Macbeal" op tv. 'n Interessante onderwerp word toe as
hofsaak gedebatteer, nl: Hoekom word prostitute vervolg vir dienste
gelewer, as dit die vrou se oer-oue metode van sosiale bevordering is. Ek
plaas hier 'n paar uittreksels uit die debat.

Die aangeklaagde prostituut:

" I was a lawyer, but couldn't meet interesting men. At least, not single
men. The interesting men were all married. They were asking me out."

Prokureur vir die verdediging: " This impel you to change your vocation?"

Prostituut: "In an odd way, yes. Married men, good men, were always hitting
on me. The men I had friendships with, under the pretext of a common love
for politics, Charles Dickens, the symphony, similar upbringing, or
whatever the basis for the friendship was in beginning, always resulted in
them wanting to have sex with me."

Advokaat vir die verdediging: " This drove you to the escort services?"

Prostituut: "This drove me to the conclusion that men as a species is not
suitable for long term partnerships."

Regter: "You hate men, and therefor became a call girl?"

Prostituut: "I became disillusioned with the idea of long term
relationships. Men seem to stay interested in passion for finite periods of
time. So I chose to engage in finite relationships. And since I had to make
a living, I decided I might as well get paid for it. I never disappointed
anyone by pretending to be noble."

Sy wys 'n vinger na 'n getuie, en sê: " See that star witness? The doctor.
Community minded, chairman of the school board, coach of the boy's soccer
team. He's noble. He also comes to me with his Visa card twice a month to
earn frequent flier miles:

Prokureur vir die verdediging: " One might say you entrap him with your
feminine whiles?"

Prostituut: " One might. But I didn't slither up to him wearing perfume. He
found me. In the yellow pages."

The aanklaer se eindbetoog is kort en kragtig. Hierdie vrou het 'n wet
oortree en is skuldig aan 'n misdaad.

Nie so nie, is haar prokureur se mening, en motiveer dit as volg:

This is a typical example of the hipocratic world we're living in. Today's
biggest and brightest film actresses make tens of millions of rands per
picture. They can only rise to that level if they are willing to simulate
sex acts on camera. That's merely for the intercourse. The kissing, the
nibbling on nipples, The sticking of the tongue in mouths and ears; the
groping of hands on breasts and thighs; hands on penises and the groin;
That's real. It's actually going on.

"These actresses may tell us that they're doing it for redeeming some
social values. That, and the million bucks. It happens on lesser levels.
Women employees have sometimes been known to gratify their male superiors
in hopes that a promotion may ensue. It's not noble, but it happens,
sometimes. We don't jail them.

I've known many women who wouldn't consider a man marriage material unless
his income is in a certain bracket. Marry for money. At least my client was
honest to her client and to you. The truth is sex has always been a
currency for women. Always. Hipocracy always gives me pause."

Ally Macbeal konfronteer hom dan met hierdie betoog van hom, en sê:
"The world is in big, big trouble. We laugh at people for aspiring to
romance; we celebrate hookers under the guise of feminine anatomy. Marriage
is all about partnership, commitment, having children, companionship and
trust. Sometimes the worst thing for a heart could be loneliness. Family
and partnership could not be called settling with a girl"

Die prokureur vir die verdediging antwoord: " Criminal law requires that
criminal lawyers play a certain game. The reason why I made that argument
is that I was paid to do it.

The world is no longer a romantic place. Some of it's people still are,
however. Therein lies the promise. Don't ever let the world win, Ally
Macbeal"

Goed, nou kom ons by die sensitiewe vragies:

As 1 uit elke drie huwelike in Suid-Afrika misluk; 56% van dié in Amerika:
Is die redes waarom vroue trou gesond? Is die vrou se geldeenheid geldig
en lei dit tot die hoë egskeidingsyfers?

Kan ons sê dat 'n jongmeisie word deur die media voorgehou dat die
huweliksgeluk is direk eweredig aan die diamante en geskenke wat in die
proses uitgedeel word. Of nog erger: Trou 'n vrou met 'n yskas, mooi huis,
blink motor en kinders. Sy kry dan net 'n man om dit te verskaf?

Of is die prostituut se aanname dat mans nie getrou aan langtermyn
verhoudings kan wees nie, geldig?

Wat moet die gronde vir 'n goeie huwelik dan wees, en waarom mis so baie
getroude pare hierdie motivering?

Ally Macbeal praat van die "illusion of marriage". As haar idee van die
redes vir die huwelik geldig was, hoekom verbrokkel die huwelik as 'n
hoeksteen van die moderne samelewing dan nou?

Is iemand lus om 'n bietjie te gaan nadink en die onderwerp te debatteer,
met die statistieke wat hard praat?

In vergelyking met ander lande, behalwe Amerika, het Suid-Afrika die
hoogste egskeidinsyfer ter wereld. Een motivering wat voorgehou word, is
dat die Suid-Afrikaanse jongmense nog kinders binne huweliksverband het, en
nog trou. In ander lande geld hierdie norm nie meer nie. wat dink julle?
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